I Feel You


I remember March 10, 2011 like it was yesterday. It was the day we buried our baby girl. I particularly remember the weather. It was a sunny, cool day and the breeze was strong. The breeze was so strong that the beautiful flower arrangements we had at the gravesite kept falling over.  Continue reading


Capture Your Grief 2014: Day 5 Journal

When we lost Bella I went online at night to find something that would comfort me. There were a lot of things that helped me, music, blogs, testimonies etc.  I thought if something someone else wrote could help me, maybe something I wrote could help someone else. I started this blog, “My Life’s Journey: Living with a New Normal” to share those thoughts. I don’t write as often as I want, but it’s here.  I pray something I write or share will help someone.


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Capture Your Grief Day 5: Memory

Those of us who have experienced a pregnancy or infant loss, don’t have the same types of memories as someone whose loved one lived here on Earth.  But we do have memories.  Our memories aren’t of a special occasion or milestone, but instead revolve around our pregnancy and the time we spent preparing.  These memories could be positive or negative.  Today’s topic for the Capture Your Grief project is “memory.” Continue reading

Capture Your Grief Day 4: Legacy


oWebster’s dictionary defines legacy as “something that comes from someone in the past.”  “Legacy” is today’s topic for the Capture Your Grief project.  When we think of legacy we think of something someone left behind and usually this person lived a long life.  So how can someone, who didn’t take a breath on this earth, who never opened her eyes, leave a legacy? Continue reading

Capture Your Grief Day 3: Myth

“Time Heals All Wounds”


No it doesn’t.  Today’s topic for the Capture Your Grief project is “myth.”  This is one of the all-time false myths about grief.  It has been two years, six months, and twenty-eight days.   Time marches on and there is nothing you can do about it.  It’s unfair.  My wounds are not healed.  I still miss and hurt for my baby girl.  I am not over it.  I never will be.  Time does not heal all wounds, it only puts more distance between you and your loss.  The pain does weaken over time and it does gets easier to deal with and live with.  But all it takes is a bad day, a memory, and it all comes flooding back.  If it were up to me I would say, “Time does not heal all wounds, it puts a band-aid on it.”